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My first Couch Surfing and the matter of trust

Posted on : 29-08-2011 | By : BlackCat | In : Couch Surfing, Вождение, Настроение, Отношения, Путешествия, Треп

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«We started CouchSurfing with a crazy idea in mind. We thought that maybe, just maybe, the world could be changed one couch at a time.   5,766,182 inspiring experiences later, we couldn’t be more sure of it.»

Well, while I have many of my thoughts in English, after  so much language practise, I decided to write it down here.

Saturday was my very first experience of hosting someone according to the Couch Surfing project!

We communicated via email about a week, sharing the things we like as well as some individual kinds of world perception.

I appreciated the facts that he likes Kusturica movies, festival non-hollywood movies and that he bought a car for the same reasons as I did. And he was interested in local modern culture and music. He wanted to learn more, to see more, to be «inside» Ukraine, not only watching usual places for sightseeing.

Though, I was not sure that my guest will come till the evening, almost till 5 oclock.

Cengiz (he is 28, from Istanbul) was going to come to Kharkiv at midnight and then to rent a car there and to begin his travelling only from that moment. So it was all uncertained — if he gets a car, if it would be too late, if he changes his plan and stay in Kharkiv.  I did not know anything for sure, so I was going to spend my time at home during the day and then to go to the open air festival «Fireman» on the Dnepr’s foreland and have a lot of fun there till the night or even till  early morning.

I was thinking and reading and doing some activities about the house almost the whole day and I became a little tired and lazy — there are even so doubts about the festival appeared as the evening comes closer.

And then Cengiz called me on my mobile — he finally bought the life mobile card and was able to connect me. I was a bit surprised actually, hearing  a little husky male voice, telling my name and speaking English words :)

So unusual!

So as soon as he got the rented car, he moved in a Dnipropetrovsk direction, relying on the marks in Google maps, which I gave him recently before his departure from Istanbul.

And yet, I was thinking that he overestimates his driving abilities and the ukrainian roads surface, so I supposed he will come not earlier then 6 p.m.  Buuuuut… He did it! He found my house without problems and came earlier. He called me by the intercome and few minutes later I was already hugging that tired stranger :) The first thing that I noticed in him — his sparkling eyes despite of his tiredness.

So, he took a shower, changed his clothes and then we were sitting at my kitchen, drinking milky coffee and talking.

I can repeat many times, but I’m not able to describe how unusual it was — to see totally unfamiliar face against me and to try understand his briefly speaking. His English was a really good, and I had to take an effort to understand almost on each his sentence.

 So, we decided to do come to the festival, the more he was going to drive us there by rented Ford Focus.

So we did.

I showed the way, even better than GPS, he-he, and we came to the foreland. There were lots of people, and only few familliar faces, so we bought a beer and sat right on the sand in front of the soft rock stage. I must say, we were talking to each other much more than listening to the music. One special moment that I remebered — when i thought I lost him while he was trying to buy another beer. There was to many thursty people there, so he had to wait, and I went to search for him. I began to worry, walking around and asking people if they saw a Turkish guy speaking English only. And I found him near the beer tent finally. And while I was searching, he already made friends with local guys, who could say only few words in English :).

After a while, my friend Fizeg came with his girlfriend Sasha and we enjoyed fooling around all together.

When we both was already tired, we went home to have late supper as well as late conversation. I served the table and  finally we had a calm nice evening with speaking eyes to eyes and lazy drinking.

The next day was full of driving the streets, having pizza, walking near the river and hanging around in the center of Dnipropetrovsk. It was really funny to watch Cengiz driving :) He refused to understand some ukrainian restrictions — for example, the necessity to stop the car behind the red «STOP» sign — he said it is totally illogically — as the driver can just move slowly and be able to see if there is any danger. He even started to tease me, stopping by that signs and standing like this for minutes «just for safety purposes» :) And he moved only when the car behind us starts to beep :)

And if he doesn’t like something in others’ drivers behaviour, he just starts to swear in Turkish language — it sounds really funny!

And while walking he was often wondering why all ukrainian girls are dressed very much alike — mini skirts and extremely high heel shoes. Cengiz was wondering why they are trying so hard to demonstrate only this part of their identity — just body.

That was really much fun about all this stuff!

In the evening we had a ride on my car, and then I asked Cengiz to let me try driving his Ford.

Awww, it was awesome! The difference between my Ponchic and this very new car is huge! Though, it was really unusual for me to press on the pedal and to switch the gears as well as to turn the steering wheel. But I was doing good! And totally happy.

Cengiz is very opened and sencere person and I like the way he acts — if he wants something, he just goes for it, as I always do.

So later at night we figured out that we want driving and then drinking! And we did. We found a little bar with romantic atmosphere in Daffi shopping center and had mojito and beer. (As in Turkey there is some legally permitted level of  blood alcohol content for driving, so Cengiz said he can drink a mojito and it is not going to be a problem)

And then he became possessed by the idea of making mojito party at home… He pulled me to the Walmart and I had to chase him along the trading ranges while he was trying to find a mint. I can’t beleive it, but he succeed!

So we did had a mojito party, I can’t think of it without smiling :) And that also was so weird — to see a foreign guy at my kitchen late at night, who are making mojito for me, and speaking in a good English with specific accent.

Soooo, I went sleep very late. And woke up half-dead. Trully, I’m still sleeping, but in the office chair and  with opened eyes.

And about trust.

Cengiz told me he wants to stay here few more days, because he likes spending time together and has real fun here with me. So the question about my working day arose — I could either make him go out of my home while I’m at the office, or I could give him the keys and leave to sleep and to discover city during the day.

I knew that couch surfers are usually doing like this — trusting their guests the keys and allowing them to feel free in the house.


I told Cengiz honestly about my doubts and explained the reasons. And he was not going to get abused or to convince me.

We just had a conversation — he told me about his own surfing experience and I listened and asked questions. And then I realized that I am trying to trust the world, without trusting the people.

And if I finally made such a crazy step, accepting a stranger to live with me, why should I afraid of something? And what is so precious I have that I need to be so stick on it?

And if he came, and he trusted me, without any reference on the CS site, why am I so suspicious?

So I decided it is time to learn how to trust people :)

So in the morning I just went to the office, leaving the keys for him on the table.

And it feels good, really. To share.  To make the world little closer and little bit homely.

And yes, I already talked with Cengiz by mobile — and today we are going to have another light-hearted evening with giggles, jokes, saving the world again, and of course, driving!

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